I’m not going to lie — some days are really hard. And I mean really hard. The mental battle that it takes to overcome doubt, fear and loneliness is on-going and at times feels insurmountable. And while I’m being honest, not all of it has to do with business. Growing as a person is just as lonely and just as scary, if not more — so doing both at the same time has put me in quite the position.
So I want to share some of the mental blocks I’ve faced and how I get myself to conquer them, every single day.
Generally, I move in the world of comfort. My family and friends know who I am and what I’m capable of — and just as advantageous as that is, it has its disadvantages too. For them to see the future that I see for myself doesn’t always work out the way I want (or in some cases, need). That feeling of being misunderstood is a lonely one and makes it easy for me to want run back to what has always been comfortable.
Dealing with Rejection
Although we just launched Clap a couple of months ago, it’s been a work in progress over the past year and a half. Not only was it a lot of long nights, weekends and stress after work, but it’s a reflection of who I am — my values and how I see the world. It’s easy to get my emotions tied to the business and that makes dealing with rejection a daunting and painful part of the process.
Feeling Left Behind
Comparing yourself to others is inevitable and I’m guilty of it a lot more than I like to admit. Seeing businesses boom in their first couple of months or seeing my friends buy homes (don’t get it twisted, I’m extremely happy for my friends and everyone else’s successes) makes me question whether I am making the right decision.
Do I actually want the life that comes with creating a business?
Am I really willing to make the sacrifices it takes it get that life?
Am I willing to risk failing?
How I deal with these obstacles
I don’t have a single easy way to conquer these mental roadblocks. Each one takes an immense amount of hard work and persistence to not only find what works, but to build them as new habits.
I’ve always considered myself an impatient person and for a long time I was ok with that. Spending more time strategizing and planning for the business and my life has made me a much more patient person and subsequently made my decision making sharper. I make more intentional decisions and allow opportunities to come my way instead of impatiently closing myself off to new, uncomfortable opportunities.
Create a Positive Environment
I choose to put myself into an environment that makes me feel inspired, happy and excited. It starts with learning — reading books, listening to podcasts, watching youtube videos, all allows me to refocus on where I am in my life and what I want for me.
More importantly, I invest in relationships with people that build each other up and are unafraid of reaching dreams of their own. Just as important as it is to strengthen positive relationships, it has been just as important to remove negative ones.
It’s true what they say, honesty is the best policy. Being honest with people about what I want and what I go through has made me fearless. More importantly, being honest with myself has been the difference maker. Understanding who I want to be and why has given me a deeper love, understanding and confidence in myself — and with that, I have all the tools I need to keep going.
4 months in as a full-time founder…
Whether my challenge of the day is building a new feature, designing a marketing strategy, making a sale or just trying to get myself out of bed — at the end of every day, I get to say I gave it my all.